I spent the majority of yesterday sick and sleeping. Some random television station was playing in the background. Somewhere in the evening I opened my eyes and lay there, listening to sounds in the background.
This particular sound was a kid crying; then pleading, “No daddy, no more, please.” I found myself feeling an entirely different kind of sick.
I sat up to look. What I heard was audio of Duane ‘Dog the Bounty Hunter’ Chapman’s grandson being beaten by his father, Travis Mimms Senior.
A judge decided the audio, taken by a neighbor, was enough evidence to award Chapman temporary custody of Travis Mimms, his 9 year-old grandson.
Radar online has the audio. Be forewarned, it is disturbing.
You can hear the child begging for his father to stop. According to Chapman the boy was hit at least 13 times in that particular incident. The boy’s mother, Barbara Katy Chapman, died in a car accident in 2006.
Dog has made it clear he does not want permanent custody of his grandson. He’d like Travis Senior to receive treatment for his anger and be reunited with his son. Chapman explained to Star magazine what his hopes were for his family.
“I don’t want to take my grandson’s dad away from him,” Chapman told Star. “I want him (Travis Senior) to take parenting classes. We had to get Travis (junior) out of that situation.
“I was beaten by my father, too. But we have to break that cycle.”
Lisa Dunning, MFT, author of Good Parents Bad Parenting explains that many children who are abused go on to be abusive themselves. You would think the opposite would be true. However, children who are abused live with grown-ups who react to stress and anger with violence. They learn this reaction. Removing the child from the abusive environment is the first step in breaking the cycle.
So what are the warning signs? Dunning explains, “If you see a child with unexplained bruises, constant school absences without any explanation, or any change in a child’s behavior, take action.”
It takes a village when it comes to child abuse. Most children would not report the abuse for fear of losing their homes, their parents. Most children are so used to the abuse that they don’t necessarily recognize it as such. God bless the neighbor who stepped up and did something about it. It couldn’t have been easy
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